During my school days, I was reluctant to participate in many of the activities offered. However, I was elected to be the proposer in a debate entitled, “Travel Broadens the Mind and Stimulates the Intellect.”

Having just returned from a trip to Amsterdam, and being forced to endure certain unplanned experiences, I am thinking that there may be more to travel than postulated in the title of this debating topic.

Amsterdam via Istanbul

Last week, I was travelling with my daughter Daniella who has given me permission to blog about this recent episode in our life. In order to save about R1000, we decided to take the route to Amsterdam on Turkish Airlines via Istanbul, instead of taking the direct flight offered by KLM.

We arrived at Istanbul at about 11 pm with our scheduled connecting flight listed as being three hours later. I knew that Dubai was a massive airport, but was surprised to find the distance between disembarking from the plane and the transit lounge at Istanbul was also a considerable distance.

As we had been sitting on the plane for about 11 hours, I decided not to take the escalators when walking up and down the stairs. After all, I had been sitting and needed the exercise. So, by the time we arrived at the transit lounge, I was really tired and very surprised to see there was limited seating. Most of that was already occupied.

After some searching, I found a spot to sit and rest until I felt it was time to move to the gate from which the next stage of our trip would leave. I looked around to find my daughter. She was nowhere to be seen. “Well,” I thought, “She is an able-bodied, sound of mind middle-aged women, with her own passport, her own seating ticket, and her own luggage. She must have made her way to catch the next flight.” I presumed she had spent the time looking at the shops and made her own way to the following stage of the journey.

The Unexpected and Unanticipated Reality

When I arrived at the relevant gate, I was mildly surprised to find that passengers had already started to enter the plane. There was no sign of Daniella. I was looking forward to seeing her when I arrived at my seat. But the place was empty.

Some mild anxiety started to arise in my mind and my body. I went to find out from the cabin crew when the plane would be leaving. “In about 25 minutes,” was the answer.

You do get one hour of free wi-fi at Istanbul airport, but I had not been successful in applying the code and achieving connectivity, so I asked the cabin steward if I could use his phone. He was most obliging, and I could feel my heart pumping as the phone was ringing, and I was awaiting a response from my offspring. But there was no answer.

“Could they make an announcement?” I asked the steward. That was out of the question. What could be done? Was I to fly off to Amsterdam without my daughter? I had heard of a young woman who had been offered drugs in that part of the world and had never returned home. Was I to lose my progeny in the Middle East due to my negligence? “Should I be looking after my daughter? Or, should she be looking after her octogenarian mother?” I asked myself.

And as I went back to my seat, the adjacent passengers started asking me questions. I felt humiliated in having to admit I had lost my daughter. Maybe they thought I was totally irresponsible. Or maybe they thought she was totally stupid. Which is better? Which is worse?

And then the doors started to close. The plane began to taxi. Here was an empty seat, and no daughter. I had to gather together all my theoretical knowledge on how to cope with this trauma. I was grateful for my practice of mindfulness and set about turning into my feelings while meditating. Realising that there was absolutely nothing I could do in the present situation, I concentrated on calming myself down.

I Arrive Alone in Amsterdam

On arrival in Amsterdam, I was relieved to find a WhatsApp message from my son who lives in this beautiful city. He had received a phone call from Daniella. Yes, she had missed the flight! He had booked her on the following flight. She would be arriving in a couple of hours.

This information was vaguely reassuring. Now I needed to find Daniella’s luggage. I waited and waited for it to appear, but it did not arrive. In fact, it only arrived the next day. But worse was to come!

Because she did not turn up for the flight from Istanbul to Amsterdam, Daniella’s return flight was automatically cancelled. She booked and paid for an alternative return flight via Nairobi. On her return, her flight leaving Amsterdam was delayed. She missed her connection to Cape Town and spent 5 hours as a guest of Kenya Airways in Nairobi, thus missing a day of work when she arrived home.

The Bonus

Travel does indeed broaden the mind, and it does teach you lessons on how to look after yourself at the same time!

 

Mindfulness Convention at the Cradle of Humankind

I have just returned from a unique four day conference in the Cradle of Humankind.  It was convened by IMISA (Institute of Mindfulness in South Africa) and created an opportunity for all practitioners interested in contemporary mindfulness practices to share and update their skills and ideas.

World Heritage Site

The Cradle of Humankind was declared a World Heritage Site in 1999 by UNESCO due to the wealth of hominoid fossils discovered there.   Knowing we were in the geographical space occupied by our earliest ancestors offered an additional dimension to the proceedings in which participants were reviewing their knowledge of the theory and practice of mindfulness.   The awareness of the benefits of a mindful lifestyle is now proliferating throughout the western world, whilst at the same time being incorporated into many fields of human endeavour.

The state of the art conference centre at Maropeng at the heart of the Cradle of Humankind, is an hour’s drive from Johannesburg and is the world’s richest fossil site where the bones of man’s earliest ancestors have recently been discovered.  The conference participants learned that the fossils of Naledi; those of mans’ oldest known ancestors, were found in this area.

Ancient Wisdom

During this conference I was made aware, on more than one occasion, of a most profound and impressive attitude which is central to many traditional cultures.   The original inhabitants of both the American and the African continent share a common mind-set.    When the community needs to introduce a ruling into their social structure, they share the tradition of considering whether or not this new dispensation will sustain the present lifestyle of their community for the following seven generations into the future.    How different is today’s attitude of contemporary politicians who are only concerned about whether or not they will win the next elections.   We were made painfully aware of the damage that humankind is perpetrating on the planet because of the selfish materialistic lifestyle of the developed nations.

An opening prayer was beautifully rendered by Madada Kandemwa, a Zimbabwean, who is considered a custodian of African Culture and Wisdom.  He is inspired by the manifestations of his spiritual forebears.   It included the following words, “Teach us Grandfathers and Grandmothers how to be like your Creator.   Mother, Father, thank you so much for bringing us together at this moment.   We have a question Grandparents. What do you want us to do?  What exactly do you want us to do?   So that we can bring harmony to the world of Mother Nature.   We know there is no harmony in the world of Mother Nature any more.   Answer our prayer this morning.   Teach us how to walk the sacred path of love, truth, peace and freedom.”   Wise and heartfelt words, indeed.

If you wish to further experience the calibre of this man, you can watch a YouTube video of him philosophising, here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8kofiKDu_Gc

What is Mindfulness

In the second decade of the 21st century, the benefits of mindfulness have become well known among progressive thinkers in the field of education and health and even business and politics. Whilst there is no universally accepted definition of mindfulness there are certain basic principles for which there is some consensus.    A range of meditation techniques are used as vehicles to allow the trainee to become aware of his senses, feelings and emotions.   An awareness of what is happening in the present moment is enhanced by an ongoing meditation practice.

Application of Mindfulness

These practices which have for many centuries been taught in Buddhist monasteries have during the past 20 years become accessible to scientific study in the Western World.   Neurologists examine how the brain and the nervous system interact with the body, when they use specialized brain-mapping equipment, such as magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) machines.  These instruments measure changes in brain waves both before and after some weeks of mindfulness practice.  Many studies have successfully demonstrated how an eight week course of Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, a sequence of practices master-minded by John Kabat-Zin, helps the participants control both anxiety and reactive impulses, leading to a greater sense of equanimity.

Summing up the benefits of the practice of mindfulness, we are reminded that participants learn how to ‘respond’ rather than ‘react.’   The primitive emotional part of the brain known as the ‘amygdala,’ develops increased connectivity with the learning areas of the brain known as the ‘cortex.’   The result of this neuronal growth means crude emotional reactions can be modified by the learning which takes place during meditation, resulting in a meditator’s ability to develop a greater control of their emotions.

Many international presenters at the conference shared with us how mindfulness is being used in communities all over the world, in settings as diverse as business, government and education.   In South Africa there are practitioners teaching mindfulness techniques to sex workers in Soweto, as well as to child carers in the rural communities of East London.    Encouraging improvements in the stress levels of participants have been notes by measuring the degree of anxiety present, or the degree of compassion practiced, after the training.

The Final Session

The final session of the conference entitled The Ground Beneath our Feet, brought together the aims of this conference by highlighting three integrating sources for the development of the wisdom and compassion of mindfulness.   The Buddhist roots of this training, as well as the sensitivities of the African Traditional Cultures were merged with the scientific trainings of contemporary experimental psychology.   At this final presentation a Xhosa lady spontaneously broke into a traditional song which she rendered in a full and deep voice imbued with a resonating spirituality.   In his closing prayer our African Seer was brought to tears whilst making us all aware of the irreversible damage that we are creating on Mother Earth.   Three rings of the cymbals substituted for any closing comments.

Indeed, this conference proved to be a treat and a special experience for participants travelling from far and wide who shared their expertise of mindfulness on the African soil.

(More about the Cradle of Mankind:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xRNOmx25RSM)

 

What does it mean to be wise?

When I reached my mid-sixties, I had a strong, and rather guilty feeling, that I had reached the age in which it was required of me that I fulfill the description of being “A Wise Woman!”.   After all, were not all senior women wise?  Anyway, this is what I had been led to believe.   But what does it mean to be wise?   And what is it that motivates me to continue on my journey which has more recently been named by a local public relations expert as a facilitator of “Conscious Ageing”?

In my earlier blog about my visit to the Mindfulness Conference in Gauteng, I mentioned the contribution of the wise Zimbabwean Elder who reminded us of the role of both our Ancestors and Mother Earth in contributing to our wellbeing.   How we need to honour both those who have gone before us as well as the planet, which sustains us in all our multiple dimensions.    These concepts are now resounding in my awareness, I have been made even more profoundly and painfully conscious of the ubiquitous manner in which mankind has been exploiting both natural resources and natural wisdom.  It made me feel there is something which I must do actively to promote the knowledge of impending ecological disaster.   I need to promote support for people who are in a less fortunate position than myself.

Mindful in May

My opportunity to play this role arose when going through this morning’s emails.    Here is a link for you to visit:  https://www.mindfulinmay.org/?utm_source=mindfulorg&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=mindfulinmay&utm_content=email

If you peruse the information on the website of Mindful in May you will have the opportunity to join an annual program in which I have participated for the past few years.    Elise Bialylew who runs this course is author of bestselling book, The Happiness Plan.    Mindful in May is “The world’s largest online global mindfulness fundraising campaign that teaches thousands of people each year to meditate, while raising funds to build clean water projects in the developing world.”   I do believe that the development of Mindfulness and the acquisition of Wisdom go hand in hand, and recommend you consider taking advantage of this opportunity taking place next month.

Wisdom – Andrew Zuckerman

Returning from the conference last week we popped in to see a friend en route to the airport, and there on the bookshelf I spied a beautiful picture book entitled Wisdom.   The photographer and film maker Andrew Zuckerman has photographed and recorded the thoughts of fifty prominent people over the age of 65 who have achieved acclaim in their chosen field.  I was so intrigued when glancing at this book after pulling it off the shelf, that I had to apologise for being anti-social as my attention was totally diverted to the wonderful pictures and beautiful erudition of the wise men and women who were featured in this work.

Jane Goodall – Animal Behaviorist

I have been an admirer of the esteemed primatologist Jane Goodall since I was a student and it was her profile which immediately drew my attention.   As a young woman she spent many hours in the heart of the African jungle scientifically studying the behavior of chimpanzees. Today the Jane Goodall Institute protects these wonderful apes and inspires people to conserve the natural world we all share. The work of the organisation honors the concept, “that everything is connected—everyone can make a difference.”

Jane feels the most important thing we can do is to try and get out of the mess we’ve made on this planet both from an environmental point of view and a social perspective.    We need to learn about the consequences of our daily actions.   How the choices we make about the products we purchase, the foods we eat and the origin of the clothes we wear impact the environment.    Are the acquisition of these goods causing a disruption in the balance of nature?   Are they contributing to human suffering because of their mode of production or manufacture?

Changes in Water Usage

And, yes you can change your habits, even at a senior age.   In Cape Town, South Africa we have all learned during the past three years of drought, how to use water more wisely.   I frequently remind myself that my daily consumption of water has dropped at least 75% because of the discipline and training I have acquired which means I now use water without any wastefulness.   Washing dishes happens once a day, and the flushing of the toilet, only when necessary.   Watering of gardens is strictly limited to certain hours and number of liters.

What do I understand now about Wisdom?

My exploration of some Buddhist philosophy and my practice of Mindfulness has made me aware that Wisdom and Compassion are deeply enmeshed with each other.    It is through the introduction of “metta” or “loving kindness” meditation that I now am more readily able to value gratitude and looking at the positive side of apparent challenges.   I have been trying to make a habit of listing my Gratitudes, looking at the good things which have happened to me on a daily basis.   So yes, I am feeling a little wiser than when I first realised this is an area of my growth which needed attention some fifteen years ago!

The force needed to empower wisdom is compassion. Both wisdom and compassion shift our sense of identity away from ourselves toward the wider human, biotic, and cosmic community to which we belong.  —Ven. Bhikkhu Bodhi, “The Need of the Hour”